In reply to purplemonkeyelephant:
The thing is, for most people, having someone who has the skills AND the experience, and also a similar or complimentary mindset is the best thing, everything else is a compromise!
In my experience, being in challenging situations really shows up all aspects of a person's character. Not only is this when you have to draw from the well of experience to deal with the tough & unexpected, but you may have to be very patient, motivated, resilient, sober, cautious, considerate, and work as a team - and still be able to crack jokes when the going gets tough.
On a couple of occasions, I've organised trips with good friends, only to fall out with them. On one occasion said friends came on a trip fully aware that climbs involved a lot of steep and long complicated approaches, only to find out they had little physical fitness due to being lazy & unprepared - apparently it was my fault for not informing them that climbing in wild places involves bushwhacking, post-holing, steep approaches, and much sweating.
I've met up & climbed with people randomly many times (from UKC and other places), sometimes we'd have a beer beforehand to get acquainted, often not. The outcome climbing has been mixed. I've found that truly experienced climbers tend to be fairly reliable and able to deal with things like tent life pretty well, and have been OK to get along with. Thing is, unless someone has proper proof or a climbing CV that you can see for yourself, it's hard to know their experience for sure. I've met with people who had all the gear and were well motivated, only to find they were either clueless, or were too experienced and snobby to have any normal respect for others. Other times I've climbed with people who had some experience, but lacked social skills, or held strange views (very religious). Roughly half of the time it really worked out brilliantly, the other half I never climbed with them again.
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